My Psychotherapy Practice
In our first few meetings you tell me what you want help with and what you hope to accomplish. I collect your three generational history and situate you in your race/ethnicity, religion or spiritual practice, social class, sexual orientation, and any other systemic forces impacting your life and the lives of your family. For example, if you have suffered from racism, sexism or homophobia, those effects will be identified and worked with in your therapy. We begin to discover the patterns in your family of origin that are still shaping your life. When your assessment is complete I will tell you how I think I can help and what modalities I feel will be useful, especially with regard to EMDR and Brainspotting. With your permission, we begin. I check with you periodically to evaluate your progress and to address anything that is not working for you. I want you to have a positive, energizing experience of yourself, of me and of the therapy. I am also on the alert for your creative energy and the activities that you are passionate about. These are important resources. Therapy is complete when you feel that you have achieved your goals.
Feeling State Addictions Protocol
Ellen has just completed training in THE revolutionary EMDR protocol for treating addictions – substance and behavioral. It is called the Feeling State Addictions Protocol, (FSAP), and was developed by Robert Miller, PH.D. This protocol targets the desired positive feeling state associated with the addictive behavior. Feelings such as; in control, soothed, confident, special, desirable, euphoric, defiant, popular, connected, are all examples of positive feeling states associated with addictive behaviors. The FSAP proposes that addictive behavior can be activated when the desired positive feeling state (any of the above) and a behavior get linked together in the brain. The result is compulsive behavior. The FSAP breaks the link. Addictions to alcohol, drugs, gambling, pornography, food – over and under-eating, are some examples of addictive behaviors that can be released. This protocol is a relatively rapid treatment. If there is underlying trauma, which is almost always the case in addictions, that is also treated successfully with EMDR.
Substance Abuse – Alcohol, Marijuana and Smoking Cessation:
Learn how to do clean and sober, what you think you can only do in an intoxicated state. The therapy process involves:
- Motivational interviewing and the cycle of change – how motivated are you and where are you in your readiness to change?
- Relapse prevention with EMDR and brainspotting
- Managing intense emotion – EMDR and Brainspotting
- Clearing Trauma – EMDR and Brainspotting
- Participation in AA is strongly encouraged
Learn to lose compulsive eating habits and nourish yourself with good nutrition and exercise.
- Motivational interviewing and the cycle of change – how motivated are you and how ready are you to change?
- Establish reasonable weight loss goals
- Develop compassion and acceptance of your body and your relationship to it.
- Explore family of origin and cultural eating habits
- Desensitizing triggers for compulsive eating – EMDR and Brainspotting
- Relapse prevention – EMDR and Brainspotting
- Participation in OA is strongly encouraged
Successfully negotiate your transition from deployment to civilian life.
Recover from sexual and combat related PTSD and related problems: anger management, substance abuse (as above), depression and anxiety.
Challenges of Retirement
Retirement can be disorienting. After a career with routine and structure, or as grown children leave home, or when one is divorced &/or widowed, to set oneself loose can feel exhilarating but also daunting. This is a time to draw on your creative energies in order to re-vision your life, find what is calling to you, and mobilize the courage to mount the search for what’s next?
I help you navigate this transition. We tap your creative energies and dissolve blockages. You learn to manage the difficult emotions, such as fear and anxiety associated with any transition. Together we discover the resources you that will propel you along your path: imagination, visioning, courage, perseverance and resilience to name just a few.
“On July 29, 2010, I attempted suicide. Fortunately, like so many things in my life at that time, I was unsuccessful. After my release from the hospital, my family doctor gently suggested that I might need therapy. This was not the first time I had attempted suicide, nor was it the first time I tried therapy. She referred me to Ellen Fox, and I sincerely believed that saved my life.
My first visit with Ms. Fox was interesting, to say the least. I was not able to drive at the time, so I was dropped off on her doorstep, weighing 84 lbs., and barely able to speak without breaking into unintelligible sobbing. I was uncomfortable with any clothing, other than my ratty pink bathrobe, but I managed to come up with two outfits, which I washed and wore consistently for the remainder of the summer. As the youngest of four children, and I recovering alcoholic, I was a master of denial and justification, and I approached every aspect of my life in that mode. Ellen identified this in me immediately, and interacted with me in a way that was different, to say the least, from others in my life. Naturally, I did not appreciate this immediately, or for some time thereafter.
But, I kept going. I did not miss appointments, and was rarely late, two things that were relatively new for me. I kept showing up because I knew I needed help, and had never received help from anyone with Ms. Fox’ therapeutic expertise and skill.
Throughout my time in therapy, Ms. Fox used a variety of methods to facilitate my recovery. Using role play, she helped me identify and “name” my anorexic self. Although I was skeptical about the process, the results were astonishing. For the first time in twenty-five years battling anorexia, I was able to confront it, forgive it and free myself from it. Ms. Fox also introduced me to EMDR, a technique she skillfully used during particularly difficult sessions. This process allowed issues, buried in my subconscious mind, to surface. As I became aware of them, I was able to examine the issues and work to resolve them. Ms. Fox also encouraged me to acknowledge my creative self, and use it as an outlet for healing and expression. She allowed me to see that I have a gift.
I am incredibly thankful to Ellen for her commitment to my recovery. I came away from every session feeling stronger. Her sense of humor, and direct approach sustained me through the most difficult time in my life. Whenever I feel overwhelmed in a situation, I remember to “just breathe and eat.” Today, I am maintaining my goal weight. I value myself, which allows me to set boundaries and not allow others to intrude upon them. Thanks to her, I have coping skills to use when the road gets rocky. Today I am moving forward, healthy, hopeful and unafraid.”
” I have know Ellen Fox for four decades. She is one of my primary referral sources because she compliments my work as a Jungian analyst. She works for results and will utilize any legitimate means to that end and lets her clients know that they will finish their work as quickly as possible. Her diverse training in Clinical Social Work, EMDR and Brainspotting are all part of her repertoire. Her community organizational skills and practice are undergirded with deep commitment and care. Ms. Fox’s so hard-to-find skill of dealing with conflict is outstanding.”
Deanne Kreis Newman, LISW, MSW, Jungian Analyst
PAYMENT: I accept Blue Cross / Blue Shield of New Mexico. Fees for service can be negotiated when you contact me.